In most cases, addicts do not seek treatment until they have hit rock bottom and lost nearly everything. While it is entirely up to the patient to get into rehab, their family and friends could encourage them to receive therapy sooner. This could prevent their disorder from getting more complicated, and their withdrawal symptoms may be less severe. Recovery could, in turn, be speedier and less traumatic.<\/p>\n

Having conversations about serious matters when one or both of you are under the influence is not optimal. While you may feel more inclined to talk about difficult subjects when slightly buzzed, full awareness and rational thinking should be prioritized. You should make sure that your friend is sober during your discussion, so no information is misconstrued. This will also increase the likelihood of them retaining most of the facts and remembering the main points you addressed.<\/p>\n

2. Show compassion and love.<\/h2>\n

Addicts constantly face prejudice, judgment, and stigma from society. They are also their biggest critics, so they already live in a destructive environment. That is why you should not accuse them of any wrongdoing. Instead, you should empathize with their situation and show them, unconditional love. They often feel worthless and severely depressed, so you should avoid amplifying and feeding negative emotions. Hold their hand, give them a hug, and offer them words of understanding and appreciation, so they remember their self-value.<\/p>\n

3. Shift the attention to the behavior.<\/h2>\n

Avoid victim-blaming or suggesting that something is wrong with your friend. The focus of your conversation should be placed on the actions and behaviors, not on the person. Do not say things like \u201cYou are irresponsible, and you hurt the people you love.\u201d Replace these words with \u201cI have noticed that you missed your appointments, and your mom was nervous about that.\u201d<\/p>\n

This is more likely to get through their brain, as their attention is now placed on what they have done, instead of who they are perceived as. This also offers a better opportunity for improvement, as actions are more tangible than concepts.<\/p>\n

4. Set low or no expectations.<\/h2>\n

Before you start the discussion, take the time to center your thoughts. Understand that the situation is complex, and recovery is a lifelong process. Go in with an open heart and mind. Do not expect any particular outcomes.<\/p>\n

You may get disappointed if your friend is irresponsive to the subject, or blatantly denies her addiction. Do not take it personally. Remember that they are suffering, and their state of being is altered by the substances. They will move at their own pace, regardless of your expectations, so for your own sake, you should either lower them or, even better, completely drop them.<\/p>\n